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Mediation, how to get a Legal Separation in New York, NYIf you and your spouse are in agreement about the fact that you want to get a legal separation with minimal pain, time and expense, mediation should certainly be your preferred choice.

In the mediation process you will have total control of all the decisions which should be part of your Agreement, and those decisions will of course be tailored to your needs and those of your family.

This is how the process works:

Spouses meet together with the mediator who is there to help them have a conversation and work out all the different issues that need to be included in their legal separation agreement.

In these sessions which usually last 1 ½ to 2 hours, the points to be worked out are:

  • Where each party is going to live
  • Division of assets (also called Equitable Distribution of Marital Property)
  • Spousal support (formerly called Alimony)
  • Child Support
  • Legal Custody: how decisions are made for their children
  • Physical Custody and Parenting agreements: where the children live, and how the parents will share weekdays, weekends, holidays and vacations with their children
  • Decisions about Health Care and Life Insurance Plans
  • Decisions that pertain to your individual situation

Depending on the number and complexity of the points that need to be worked out, it will take 3 to 6 sessions to get through all the issues. Sessions can be scheduled weekly or at greater intervals, dependent on what is most convenient for both of you and how quickly you want to complete the process. The mediator will guide you through all the different points of your agreement, raise questions to clarify some of those points, answer questions you may have, and help you generate options that will lead you to solutions.

All the decisions made by both of you will be included in your Separation Agreement, also called Settlement Agreement. This document will then be signed by you and notarized. When you and your spouse are ready to file for divorce, the attorney will file the appropriate documents in the court.

There are many benefits of choosing mediation over litigationMediation = Making Your Own Decisions:

In divorce mediation, with the help of your mediator,  you and your spouse can  create your own separation agreement by making decisions  that best suit your needs and those of your family. When you are going through a separation, no one else knows what feels comfortable to you and/or the agreements that you can live with.

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Jennifer Safian, Mediator


jennifer safian
divorce and family mediator

phone: (212) 472-8626

Divorce & Family Mediation, Upper East Side of Manhattan, NYC, New York, NY

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There are many benefits of choosing mediation over litigationMediation = Satisfaction For You Both:

In mediation you can be as creative as you wish to be. Only you know the specifics of your lives, what works for you and what does not.  As your mediator I’m there to help you “think outside of the box” if necessary, sometimes coming up with non traditional answers, but answers that will satisfy not only your financial needs but your emotional needs as well.

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