Children & Divorce

what’s nesting when I am getting a divorce?

By Jennifer Safian / July 11, 2024

{2 minutes to read} Divorcing couples are often concerned about their young children having to travel a couple of times a week between their two homes yet at the same time, neither of them wants to be separated from their children for seven consecutive days. This is when nesting can be an option, at least…

why must our parenting schedule have so many details?

By Jennifer Safian / June 19, 2024

{2 minutes to read}  A separating or divorcing family needs to create a parenting plan to determine how they will share time with their children on weekdays, weekends, holidays, and vacations. It takes some effort to draw up these plans so that each parent can have meaningful time with them and ensure that transitions between…

coping with divorce guilt

By Jennifer Safian / April 17, 2024

{4 minutes to read} I have hesitated about writing on the issue of divorce guilt because, for most people, it is a heartrending emotion. However, guilt is an emotion that is real for many people, which they do not often express out in the open. This article is not about pointing fingers and making anyone…

should I tell my children’s school that we are getting a divorce?

By Jennifer Safian / March 13, 2024

{4 minutes to read}  Some parents wonder if it is important to inform their children’s school that they are getting a divorce. Here are some of the reasons why alerting the school will help your children:  Should I tell my children’s school that we are getting a divorce?  The answer is unequivocally yes. This may…

putting the children first in divorce with jennifer safian

By Jennifer Safian / May 11, 2023

I was interviewed by Rachel Green on her podcast “Keep the Children in Mind.” We discussed what parents can do to protect their children during divorce, as well as what they should not do. You will also hear examples of situations we each have encountered over the years which illustrate our conversation. I invite you…

must we cut the children down the middle?

By Jennifer Safian / March 30, 2023

Creating a parenting schedule for you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse may present some challenges, especially when each of you wants to have the children for a maximum amount of time. In this video, we explore a number of options from which divorcing parents can decide what will work best for their family. Co-parenting and sharing…

let’s be honest

By Jennifer Safian / February 22, 2023

{3 minutes to read}   Let’s be honest: I once worked with a divorcing couple where the parents had agreed in principle that each of them would have the children 50% of the time. The hardest issue for them to accept was being away from their children. When discussing their parenting schedules, the father admitted that his…

divorced couples with different religions

By Jennifer Safian / February 8, 2023

{4 minutes to read}  Having different religions can cause difficulties within a marriage, but what happens when it causes problems after the marriage is over? Kate and David came from similar backgrounds, grew up with similar values, and married right out of college. It seemed that the main difference between them was that they were of…

how to manage difficult conversations

By Jennifer Safian / January 11, 2023

{3 minutes to read}  Whether you’re discussing an issue with your partner related to your day-to-day life, or at a family gathering debating topics like abortion or climate change regulations, conversations can get heated and boil over into full-blown arguments. Here are 5 steps that you can take as you engage in difficult discussions: Before…

handling special days and holidays [VIDEO]

By Jennifer Safian / October 30, 2022

  Creating co-parenting plans is a formidable task all on its own, but if you have children, one of the aspects you will have to decide is how you will handle special days, and especially holidays with them. In this video, I share a number of creative ways divorcing parents have chosen to ensure that…