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what is mediation?
Mediation is a process which fosters cooperation and communication between 2 or more people going through a crisis.
why would I choose mediation over a litigated divorce?
Mediation is a non-adversarial, therefore faster and less expensive process through which the parties maintain control of the decisions affecting their lives and those of their children
are you a lawyer as well as a mediator?
People often ask this question because they worry about whether they will need the protection of a lawyer during the mediation process.
if we choose mediation, do we still need to have lawyers?
I do recommend that each of you have a “consulting attorney” with whom you can discuss certain questions or points that may arise during the process and who can review the Agreement from your point of view before it becomes a legal document.
can you recommend attorneys to us?
Yes I work with attorneys that are familiar with the mediation process and I can give you several references from which to choose.
my husband and I can’t talk without getting annoyed at each other, so how can we possibly sit through a mediation?
Mediation is a conversation between the parties and the mediator.
my spouse and I seem to disagree on everything – how can we possibly come to a mutually satisfying agreement?
If you and your spouse agreed on everything, you would probably not be separating.
how often do we have to meet?
Some people prefer to meet weekly, others twice a month. The number and frequency of sessions can be tailored to fit your schedule.
how long are the sessions and how many sessions will we need?
Sessions usually last 1 to 2 hours. The number of sessions depends on the number of issues that need to be worked out.
what happens in the first session?
In the first session, after explaining the process of mediation, I will start our conversation by gathering more specific information about your family, what your goals are and what issues are most pressing for each of you.
do we need to prepare anything special for the first session?
After an appointment for the first session has been made, I will email you a questionnaire which will include basic information that you should bring with you.
how are we supposed to know what has to be in the separation/divorce agreement?
As mediator, that is part of my job.
what if we are not sure of what arrangement we want to make as far as each of us having the children?
That is a good question; it is sometimes difficult to know what will work best.
what if we sign a divorce agreement and after a while decide that the custody agreement we made does not work for us?
Many couples find that as the family evolves and the children grow, agreements need to be adjusted.
what is the free half hour consultation you offer?
At this stressful time in your life, you want to be sure that you are comfortable with whomever you choose to work with.
do you charge a retainer – how do your fees work?
I do not charge a retainer.
we are post-divorce but still having difficulties communicating about the children and arguing about financial questions – can we return to mediation for that?
Yes, mediation is a good place for both of you to talk about those difficulties and explore how you might want to modify your previous arrangement by putting in place different solutions to some of those issues.