Divorce Mediator

Picture Of Andy Warhol Marilyn Monroe (Marilyn). 1967, presented at the exhibition in The art gallery the Art gallery "K35". Moscow. 09.12.2009

how much is my picasso worth?

By Jennifer Safian / March 18, 2020

{4 minutes to read}  In a divorce, valuing art work or real estate properties can be a difficult task. As a former art dealer and now divorce mediator, I have been asked several times to speak about dividing up art works in a divorce. Last October 2019, New York State Supreme Court Justice Laura Drager…

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Coherent Communication

By Jennifer Safian / September 10, 2019

{2:30 minutes to read}  Communication is key in every interaction of our lives. We all say things that can lead to different interpretations. And what we hear the other person say may not necessarily be what they meant. So when in doubt, do not hesitate to ask, “What do you mean by that?” I listened…

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What NOT To Do Before Divorce Mediation [VIDEO]

By Jennifer Safian / June 4, 2019

In my mediation practice, I generally offer a preliminary consultation to couples so that they can get an understanding of the mediation process. At the end of it, I give them a list of the documents that they need to gather for their first appointment, but I never have given them a list of what…

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The Difficult Conversations of Divorce

By Jennifer Safian / April 18, 2019

{3:30 minutes to read} Short of admitting to ourselves that our marriage is over, telling our children, parents, friends, and even people at work, can be most difficult –  even scary. Telling our children. We feel guilty about disrupting their stability as we know that their lives will be changed considerably by the divorce.

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Confessions of a Divorce Mediator

By Jennifer Safian / February 6, 2019

{3:30 minutes to read} As Valentine’s Day approaches, I could not help but remember this article which I wrote a few years ago which still resonates so strongly with me, day in, day out.  So I chose to publish it again. Some of you may choose to share it with others who may be going through…

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The Value of Parenting Classes

By Jennifer Safian / January 23, 2019

{3 minutes to read}  When hearing about parenting classes, divorcing parents sometimes wonder: “Why would I need this class? My husband and I don’t need to be told how to raise our children.” The goal of parenting classes, however, is not to tell people how to raise their children, but to help them face the…

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Accentuating the Positive

By Jennifer Safian / January 9, 2019

{3 minutes to read} Crisis often represents an opportunity for people to learn about themselves, to learn to deal with adversity, and to grow. When my son was about 14, he came to me and said, “Why do so many bad things happen to me and not to others?” He was mostly referring to challenges…

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Celebrating Children’s Birthdays Post-Divorce

By Jennifer Safian / December 12, 2018

{5 minutes to read}  Celebrating our children’s birthdays post-divorce can often create some practical and logistical issues as well as a lot of emotional stress. As parents, however, we need to remember that this is a special day for our children and put ourselves, our egos and our priorities to the side.

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Compromise: Positive or Negative?

By Jennifer Safian / November 28, 2018

{3:30 minutes to read}  For several years now, I have been a member of the board of directors of a cooperative building, aka “co-op,” in New York. Our role is to protect the assets of the shareholders. In doing so, we make decisions regarding the financials and the maintenance of the building, approving new buyers,…

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The Role of Body Language in Divorce Mediation Part I by Jennifer Safian

The Role of Body Language in Divorce Mediation Part I

By Jennifer Safian / October 17, 2018

Fundamentally, body language is seen as an involuntary and unconscious phenomenon that adds to the process of communication. (Wikipedia) {5 minutes to read}  Setting: my office has a sofa that sits three people comfortably, a clear almost invisible coffee table, my armchair across from the sofa and a couple of extra chairs on either side of…

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