Safian Mediation

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The time is now — let your anger go!

By Jennifer Safian / September 23, 2019

{4 minutes to read}  We may think that being angry at someone will make that person suffer, but the truth is by holding grudges, we harm ourselves more than we harm the other person. It eats at our insides; it infiltrates our thoughts; and often prevents us from moving ahead with our own lives. I…

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A parenting schedule? Hmm, we’ll figure it out later . . .

By Jennifer Safian / August 21, 2019

{3:30 minutes to read}  Robert and Chris had mediated their divorce a few years back. They had agreed that since Chris was moving away to another part of the country, it would be in the children’s best interest to stay in their home with Robert and remain at the same school. Robert and Chris had…

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parent’s divorce or spouse’s divorce: it’s all in how we say it

By Jennifer Safian / July 30, 2019

{3 minutes to read}   James was brought in to see a child psychologist by his mother: “I am very sad,” he said, “because my parents are getting divorced.” The therapist responded: “Your parents are not getting divorced, the spouses are getting divorced.” James was not quite sure what to make of this answer so the…

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The Quality of Kindness

By Jennifer Safian / July 8, 2019

{4 minutes to read}  Kindness is defined as the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate. Affection, gentleness, warmth, concern, and care are words that are associated with kindness. While kindness can have a connotation of meaning someone is naive or weak, that is not the case. Being kind often requires courage and strength. 

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One couple’s approach to divorce that puts the children first

By Jennifer Safian / June 18, 2019

{2 minutes to read}  In our previous article, How you handle the separation will have a lasting effect on your children,  we talked about the negative impact a poorly handled separation can have on children. We also made a few suggestions for divorcing parents. On January 3, 2019, the article 2 Divorce Lawyers Better After…

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What NOT To Do Before Divorce Mediation [VIDEO]

By Jennifer Safian / June 4, 2019

In my mediation practice, I generally offer a preliminary consultation to couples so that they can get an understanding of the mediation process. At the end of it, I give them a list of the documents that they need to gather for their first appointment, but I never have given them a list of what…

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How you handle the separation will have a lasting effect on your children

By Jennifer Safian / May 22, 2019

{3 minutes to read}  I recently watched the first season of the Genius series on National Geographic which follows the fascinating life of Albert Einstein. It spans from his early years as a patent clerk to the world renowned physicist who developed the theory of relativity. This series also gives us insight into Einstein’s personal…

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The Difficult Conversations of Divorce

By Jennifer Safian / April 18, 2019

{3:30 minutes to read} Short of admitting to ourselves that our marriage is over, telling our children, parents, friends, and even people at work, can be most difficult –  even scary. Telling our children. We feel guilty about disrupting their stability as we know that their lives will be changed considerably by the divorce.

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I am not getting married again because I am just not good at it!

By Jennifer Safian / April 3, 2019

{2 minutes to read} I once heard someone say this after he had been married and divorced three times. I often wondered why some people get married several times just to end up divorced over and over. We have all heard the line that they keep making the same mistakes, but what does that mean? I…

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Supporting couples and families through highly emotional conflicts

By Jennifer Safian / March 6, 2019

{3 minutes to read}  Families in conflict or couples going through divorce often ask me how I manage to work day-in and day-out with people in constant disagreement and distress, yet still remain calm. Well, of course, the first thing that comes to mind is that I am not a party to the dispute. The…

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