One couple’s approach to divorce that puts the children first

{2 minutes to read} In our previous article, How you handle the separation will have a lasting effect on your children, we talked about the negative impact a poorly handled separation can have on children. We also made a few suggestions for divorcing parents.

On January 3, 2019, the article 2 Divorce Lawyers Better After Their Own Divorce, but Still Together written by Louise Rafkin appeared in the Weddings Section of The New York Times. This thought-provoking narrative talks about how two divorce lawyers, Vanessa and Brendan Hammer, handled their own divorce, putting their child first at all times.

It is clear that these parents gave a lot of thought as to how they would handle their separation, always trying to minimize the impact on their son.

These parents always use the word “we” as in “we are giving you this gift …” or “we want to …” They made a conscious decision not to use the word divorce with him.

“I don’t think he knows that we are divorced,” she said. “He knows there was a time when mom and dad didn’t live together, but he knows we are a family.”

“We have always presented a united front,” she said.

This is an approach that might help other families with children minimize the impact of their separation. If you would like to read the whole article, please click on the link below:

2 Divorce Lawyers Better After Their Own Divorce, but Still Together

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